The Myth of “Safety”

It's taken me a long time to write this post. I actually started it almost two weeks ago; but, for various reasons, not the least of which has been my own up-and-down battle with anxiety and stress, it's taken until today to finish. Better late than never, I suppose... It's been quite a while since … Continue reading The Myth of “Safety”

How to Have a Midlife Crisis in 10 Easy Steps

I've never been overly concerned about my age, or aging in general. It's true. A lot of people have something of a rude awakening when they turn 30. Not me. I was fine with it--it was just another year in my life. The same was true at 40. So, for me anyway, age and aging … Continue reading How to Have a Midlife Crisis in 10 Easy Steps

Struggling, Discouraged, & Generally Feeling Like Something of a Nobody

Yeah....sorry about the melodramatic title, but if you've been reading my blog long enough then you know I have a penchant for drama. *shrug* It's who I am. I apologized for it for years. I'm not going to apologize anymore. I'm struggling... It's been a while since I've posted anything. There are a lot of … Continue reading Struggling, Discouraged, & Generally Feeling Like Something of a Nobody

Self-Care Isn’t Selfish: Finding the Time and Tenacity to Get Well

Most people who suffer from anxiety and/or panic attacks (panic disorder) are the typical, tightly wound, Type a personality. Actually, all personality types have some level of tendency toward anxiety and stress about some thing according to Tanya J. Peterson, author of The Mindfulness Workbook For Anxiety. But, Type A's are highly susceptible to the stressors … Continue reading Self-Care Isn’t Selfish: Finding the Time and Tenacity to Get Well

The Things We Say to Ourselves, part 2: 5 Positive Statements You Should ABSOLUTELY Say Every Day

Last week I wrote about 5 Negative Statements You Should Stop Saying Right Now.  So, I wanted to follow that post up this week with 5 Positive Statements You Should Absolutely Say Every Day. When I was in high school, there was a skit on Saturday Night Live called "Daily Affirmations with Stewart Smalley." Stewart Smalley … Continue reading The Things We Say to Ourselves, part 2: 5 Positive Statements You Should ABSOLUTELY Say Every Day

The Things We Say To Ourselves: 5 Negative Statements You Should Stop Saying Right Now

People with anxiety and depression are notoriously bad about saying terrible things about ourselves. Most of the time, we say those things to ourselves.  Oftentimes we excuse this negative talk by saying we're just being "realistic" or "trying not to get our hopes up" about something. But, the problem is that with every negative word we … Continue reading The Things We Say To Ourselves: 5 Negative Statements You Should Stop Saying Right Now

3 Things People With Anxiety Do That People With Anxiety Should Never Do

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Generalized Anxiety Disorder, panic attacks, and depression can be a real mine field for people who suffer with them. Often times, the very things we want to do and feel an irresistible urge to do are the very worst things to do. That's what is so insidious about these illnesses--they become a vicious cycle of self-defeating behaviors … Continue reading 3 Things People With Anxiety Do That People With Anxiety Should Never Do

5 (+1) Tips To Reduce Anxiety on the First Day of School

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It's that time again... Back to School! The first day of school is just around the corner (already here in some places), and for students, parents, and teachers alike, knowing that first day of school is coming can produce a lot anxiety and sometimes enough stress to make you sick! But it doesn't have to be that … Continue reading 5 (+1) Tips To Reduce Anxiety on the First Day of School

Changes — They Are a-Comin’!

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Change is good, right?! I started this blog almost 10 years ago when I was in the midst of one of the worst periods of anxiety and depression that I'd ever experienced. In the beginning, the blog was a way for me to get my thoughts out of my head and on to "paper" -- … Continue reading Changes — They Are a-Comin’!

Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 8: Making Amends and Knowing When It’s Time to Stop Apologizing

In traditional 12 Step recovery programs, two of the steps are dedicated to righting the wrongs that have been done--or at least acknowledging them, apologizing for them, and, if possible, making some sort of reparation (not necessarily monetarily) for them. Step Eight: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to … Continue reading Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 8: Making Amends and Knowing When It’s Time to Stop Apologizing