The Things We Say To Ourselves: 5 Negative Statements You Should Stop Saying Right Now

People with anxiety and depression are notoriously bad about saying terrible things about ourselves. Most of the time, we say those things to ourselves.  Oftentimes we excuse this negative talk by saying we're just being "realistic" or "trying not to get our hopes up" about something. But, the problem is that with every negative word we … Continue reading The Things We Say To Ourselves: 5 Negative Statements You Should Stop Saying Right Now

Removing the Anger Quotient: Being less affected and more effective

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Ok....I confess it. I get angry pretty easily. It doesn't take very much at all for inconvenience to slide into annoyance; for annoyance to turn into irritation; and for irritation to morph into Incredible Hulk like anger! Even the smallest things can turn me from a relatively calm person, to a complete a**hole. You know that's common … Continue reading Removing the Anger Quotient: Being less affected and more effective

3 Things People With Anxiety Do That People With Anxiety Should Never Do

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Generalized Anxiety Disorder, panic attacks, and depression can be a real mine field for people who suffer with them. Often times, the very things we want to do and feel an irresistible urge to do are the very worst things to do. That's what is so insidious about these illnesses--they become a vicious cycle of self-defeating behaviors … Continue reading 3 Things People With Anxiety Do That People With Anxiety Should Never Do

5 (+1) Tips To Reduce Anxiety on the First Day of School (with COVID-era upate)

It's that time again... Back to School! The first day of school is just around the corner (already here in some places), and for students, parents, and teachers alike, knowing that first day of school is coming can produce a lot anxiety and sometimes enough stress to make you sick! But it doesn't have to be that … Continue reading 5 (+1) Tips To Reduce Anxiety on the First Day of School (with COVID-era upate)

Changes — They Are a-Comin’!

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Change is good, right?! I started this blog almost 10 years ago when I was in the midst of one of the worst periods of anxiety and depression that I'd ever experienced. In the beginning, the blog was a way for me to get my thoughts out of my head and on to "paper" -- … Continue reading Changes — They Are a-Comin’!

Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 8: Making Amends and Knowing When It’s Time to Stop Apologizing

In traditional 12 Step recovery programs, two of the steps are dedicated to righting the wrongs that have been done--or at least acknowledging them, apologizing for them, and, if possible, making some sort of reparation (not necessarily monetarily) for them. Step Eight: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to … Continue reading Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 8: Making Amends and Knowing When It’s Time to Stop Apologizing

Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 7: Sometimes We Fail

Sometimes, we fail. When I started this series over a year ago, I made a commitment to total transparency. Share everything (that is appropriate to share), hide nothing. Because only when we are totally honest with ourselves, with the people who love and care for us, and with the people who are helping us, can … Continue reading Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 7: Sometimes We Fail

Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 6: The Myth of Safety

In my previous posts in this series (links available at the end of this post), I've written a lot about many of the facets of my struggle with anxiety and panic attacks. But, one of the things I haven't yet addressed is one of the myths that people who suffer with anxiety and panic attacks … Continue reading Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 6: The Myth of Safety

Lessons from Star Wars–“You Must Unlearn What You Have Learned”: How Self-Perception Can Change Everything

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One of the things I struggle with most in my life--one of the things I think we all struggle with--is self-perception. It's not necessarily that the way we perceive ourselves is bad or negative, but a lot of the time, I think they way we perceive ourselves is, quite simply, inaccurate. That is something we … Continue reading Lessons from Star Wars–“You Must Unlearn What You Have Learned”: How Self-Perception Can Change Everything

Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, part 5: A Road to Wellness (Here We Go)

In my last post, I wrote that I would be starting an intensive outpatient treatment program for anxiety and depression soon. Soon has come! I began the program on Monday, and completed the third day yesterday. One of the rules of the program is that I not discuss treatment outside of the group--with anyone. So, … Continue reading Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, part 5: A Road to Wellness (Here We Go)