The Things We Say To Ourselves: 5 Negative Statements You Should Stop Saying Right Now

People with anxiety and depression are notoriously bad about saying terrible things about ourselves. Most of the time, we say those things to ourselves.  Oftentimes we excuse this negative talk by saying we're just being "realistic" or "trying not to get our hopes up" about something. But, the problem is that with every negative word we … Continue reading The Things We Say To Ourselves: 5 Negative Statements You Should Stop Saying Right Now

Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 8: Making Amends and Knowing When It’s Time to Stop Apologizing

In traditional 12 Step recovery programs, two of the steps are dedicated to righting the wrongs that have been done--or at least acknowledging them, apologizing for them, and, if possible, making some sort of reparation (not necessarily monetarily) for them. Step Eight: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to … Continue reading Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 8: Making Amends and Knowing When It’s Time to Stop Apologizing

Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 7: Sometimes We Fail

Sometimes, we fail. When I started this series over a year ago, I made a commitment to total transparency. Share everything (that is appropriate to share), hide nothing. Because only when we are totally honest with ourselves, with the people who love and care for us, and with the people who are helping us, can … Continue reading Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 7: Sometimes We Fail

Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 4: Where Do We Go from Here?

I started this series of posts a long time ago. In fact, I posted parts 1, 2, and 3 (you can click on the numbers to read them) over a year ago. I had every intention of writing this fourth part back then, but a funny thing happened on the way to writing it...I went … Continue reading Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 4: Where Do We Go from Here?

Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 1: My Long & Complicated Relationship With Panic

I don't remember how old I was when I had an anxiety attack for the first time. Looking back, knowing what I know now, it was probably around age 10 or 11. It's hard to say, though, because back in those days, nobody used the terms anxiety attack or panic attack--at least not anyone I … Continue reading Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 1: My Long & Complicated Relationship With Panic