Pencils Down, Your Time Is Up: 5 (+1) Strategies to Overcome Test Anxiety (A Reader Request)

For the first time in almost 10 years writing this blog, I've had a reader request that I address a particular topic! So, of course, I am very happy to oblige, especially since this particular topic is one that is very important to me as both an educator and a student--TEST ANXIETY!! I suppose that … Continue reading Pencils Down, Your Time Is Up: 5 (+1) Strategies to Overcome Test Anxiety (A Reader Request)

Self-Care Isn’t Selfish: Finding the Time and Tenacity to Get Well

Most people who suffer from anxiety and/or panic attacks (panic disorder) are the typical, tightly wound, Type a personality. Actually, all personality types have some level of tendency toward anxiety and stress about some thing according to Tanya J. Peterson, author of The Mindfulness Workbook For Anxiety. But, Type A's are highly susceptible to the stressors … Continue reading Self-Care Isn’t Selfish: Finding the Time and Tenacity to Get Well

The Things We Say to Ourselves, part 2: 5 Positive Statements You Should ABSOLUTELY Say Every Day

Last week I wrote about 5 Negative Statements You Should Stop Saying Right Now.  So, I wanted to follow that post up this week with 5 Positive Statements You Should Absolutely Say Every Day. When I was in high school, there was a skit on Saturday Night Live called "Daily Affirmations with Stewart Smalley." Stewart Smalley … Continue reading The Things We Say to Ourselves, part 2: 5 Positive Statements You Should ABSOLUTELY Say Every Day

It’s Not ALWAYS Anxiety: Recognizing, Owning, and Dealing With “Real” Emotions and Symptoms

Sometimes it's easy for those of us who suffer from anxiety and panic attacks to blame everything on anxiety. It's easy for our friends, loved ones, and even our doctors, too. But, I want to let you in on a little secret. Are you ready? It's not always anxiety. It's true. Not every emotion and … Continue reading It’s Not ALWAYS Anxiety: Recognizing, Owning, and Dealing With “Real” Emotions and Symptoms

The Things We Say To Ourselves: 5 Negative Statements You Should Stop Saying Right Now

People with anxiety and depression are notoriously bad about saying terrible things about ourselves. Most of the time, we say those things to ourselves.  Oftentimes we excuse this negative talk by saying we're just being "realistic" or "trying not to get our hopes up" about something. But, the problem is that with every negative word we … Continue reading The Things We Say To Ourselves: 5 Negative Statements You Should Stop Saying Right Now

Removing the Anger Quotient: Being less affected and more effective

Ok....I confess it. I get angry pretty easily. It doesn't take very much at all for inconvenience to slide into annoyance; for annoyance to turn into irritation; and for irritation to morph into Incredible Hulk like anger! Even the smallest things can turn me from a relatively calm person, to a complete a**hole. You know that's common … Continue reading Removing the Anger Quotient: Being less affected and more effective

3 Things People With Anxiety Do That People With Anxiety Should Never Do

Generalized Anxiety Disorder, panic attacks, and depression can be a real mine field for people who suffer with them. Often times, the very things we want to do and feel an irresistible urge to do are the very worst things to do. That's what is so insidious about these illnesses--they become a vicious cycle of self-defeating behaviors … Continue reading 3 Things People With Anxiety Do That People With Anxiety Should Never Do

Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 8: Making Amends and Knowing When It’s Time to Stop Apologizing

In traditional 12 Step recovery programs, two of the steps are dedicated to righting the wrongs that have been done--or at least acknowledging them, apologizing for them, and, if possible, making some sort of reparation (not necessarily monetarily) for them. Step Eight: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to … Continue reading Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 8: Making Amends and Knowing When It’s Time to Stop Apologizing

Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 7: Sometimes We Fail

Sometimes, we fail. When I started this series over a year ago, I made a commitment to total transparency. Share everything (that is appropriate to share), hide nothing. Because only when we are totally honest with ourselves, with the people who love and care for us, and with the people who are helping us, can … Continue reading Anxiety–Destroyer of Lives, Part 7: Sometimes We Fail

Lessons from Star Wars–“You Must Unlearn What You Have Learned”: How Self-Perception Can Change Everything

One of the things I struggle with most in my life--one of the things I think we all struggle with--is self-perception. It's not necessarily that the way we perceive ourselves is bad or negative, but a lot of the time, I think they way we perceive ourselves is, quite simply, inaccurate. That is something we … Continue reading Lessons from Star Wars–“You Must Unlearn What You Have Learned”: How Self-Perception Can Change Everything